Do we even believe in 50-50 parenthood?
One of the most astonishing findings I made since becoming a dad 2 years ago, is that the world was not where I believed it to be when it comes to the approach to work and family.
As a working father with a working wife, I thought that the world in 2017 was ready for a 50-50 parenthood split. Maybe a difficult one to achieve at work because Shared parental leave is still seen as somewhat of a taboo, but pretty much a reality in any other aspect of life.
Whilst the most progressive thinkers keep saying that even Parental leave at work should be forced as a 50-50 split to really make parenthood fair, and to make sure women do not get any disadvantages... In the past couple of years I have interacted with colleagues, close friends, relatives (all in their 30ies, not people coming from the Mad Men era) and heard things like:
"It's obvious that the mother will do more than the dad" (very close male friend) -
"Why would a father ever have to take the leave that a mother takes when a child is born?" (male colleague) -
"My husband is supportive of course, but obviously I do about 80% of house chores" (friend, full-time working mom) -
"I am a mother, and I don't even want my husband to take away any of the leave from me!! (friend, full-time working mom)
My question is: is it even worth pushing for 50-50 parenthood? Society may not be ready, but are we as industry leaders ready? Do we believe in it ourselves? And if we do, what could we do to push it further and make it happen?